Setting a man up to win is telling him what would make you happy, and inviting him to please you. Not
demanding: inviting. When a woman demands, a man only has two choices: he can submit and comply
(not a win), or he can rebel (not a win either). Inviting would be something like: “Honey, it would really
help me out if you would take out the trash”. He wants to help, he takes out the trash, you’re pleased,
he wins, everybody wins.
