There are many motivations for initiating sex. We may want validation that we’re desirable, that if an attractive person wants to have sex with us that makes us attractive by association, or constitutes another notch in the bedpost. We may want to express love to our beloved. We may want him to stop nagging and pouting and get off our back, so to speak. We may want to connect physically and feel their skin, smell them, hold them… We may be anxious and use sex as a pacifier. We may just be horny. There’s no right or wrong reason to initiate. I just encourage you be straight with yourself about where you’re coming from.
How many of us have misread cues
